Letting Go of Judgments and Creating the Best Version of You....

Judgments, Rumors, Jealousy, Ego, Gossip, Snickering, Office Politics, School Politics, and more….

Why this is the year to let it all go and start focusing on your life and your dreams.

So 2010 was not the easiest year for me in a lot of ways. I lost my grandmother, had more bills than I could count, had disappointments in my profession, had disappointments in my family life and to top it all off I gained 10lbs.

As I reflect on the reasons behind some of my disappointments and struggles it is easy to blame someone else as it is always harder to look in the mirror and realize that I am in control of my thoughts and my emotions. Recently, I was annoyed by a colleague regarding the emails I was receiving. I felt that they were non-supportive and sometimes I feel as though people forget I am more than, “just a mom” as I do have a college degree and have been successful in many avenues in my life. I start making it about them for example: Why are they being so rude? Who do they think they are? Do they not realize I am smart and very capable? Why are they talking about me behind my back? And the list goes on and on… However, what I discovered after I made myself so upset was that they aren’t doing anything other than tickling my insecurities about me. When you look at the target of whatever your actual fear is than that is how you can truly start to let go.

Some of you may or may not know that I have been attending courses at The Option Institute®, which is also where the Autism Treatment Center of America™ is located, going on 7 years and you would have thought by now I would have figured this out sooner. I am now looking at the world through a different pair of glasses. Now when I hear someone doesn’t like me, or I receive an email that may be read as non-supportive, or even if someone is snippy or rude to me, I instantly turn it back to me. This is the year that I am going to transform. I am not going to look back when I am 90 years old with any regret. I am NOT a victim, as I want to be the best version of me.

We have all heard the saying, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” Well, change starts from within. Thinking about my insecurities about that email really helped me realize that my core insecurities were: I do care what others think about me, I want others to like me, and also I am sure my ego played a role. That got me to thinking about why do I care about all of that, which prompted me to ask the question: “DO I LIKE ME?”

My answer was: “Yes, I do and I can only make myself happy”

It was amazing because once I realized that I had the key to my emotions it seems like everything else just falls into place.

I will leave you with a quote by Eleanor Roosevelt: “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”

Make this year the best version of you……..

Much love,
Kristin Selby Gonzalez
AKA Jaxson's Mom

Check out: Happiness Is A Choice by Barry Neil Kaufman as this book has been a key to my transformation.